That said, I don't care about spelling. I'm going all phonetic with phrases I learn
- Pee a cherrrray de • Conocherrr tee ( Piacere di conoscerti
) -- Pleased to Meet You.
- Mee keee ammmo John = My Name is John.
5.06.2008
Teaching Myself Italian
I love this language. I love the way it sounds. The way it flows. Most vitally, I love the body language and gestures used with Italian. It's the perfect "animated language" for an actor!
That said, I don't care about spelling. I'm going all phonetic with phrases I learn
That said, I don't care about spelling. I'm going all phonetic with phrases I learn
4.29.2008
Ritalin Kills and ADHD is bogus!
The drug Ritalin has come under fire in the U.S. for a potential link to heart problems and deaths in children.
Health Canada issued a warning two years ago about rare heart-related risks for all attention deficit hyperactivity disorder drugs telling those with risk factors to avoid them.
Ritalin is commonly prescribed to children diagnosed with hyperactivity disorders and Tuesday the American Heart Association says before children get the drug they should get a thorough heart work-up including an electro-cardiogram.
In past nine years, as many as 30 child deaths have been linked to Ritalin and 2.5 million American kids take it.
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Subject: ADHD Study is Misleading, Charges Watchdog Group
Stimulant Side Effects, Not "ADHD", May Be to Blame for Slow Brain Development
LOS ANGELES: A Nov 16 study in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences on delayed brain development in children diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is misleading, claims a psychiatric watchdog group. Researchers from the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), examining a series of brain images of more than 400 children (half of them “ADHD”), concluded that some regions of the brain of children with ADHD matured several years later than normal. The Citizens Commission on Human Rights (CCHR) says the researchers underplayed the fact that 66% of the ADHD subjects studied had been on powerful stimulants (as reported in the study), warned by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) to cause suppression of growth—which could logically include brain development. With stimulant “treatment” the only physical variable, and ADHD never validated as a real disease, it is likely that the stimulant drugs, not ADHD, are to blame for ! the slow brain maturation reported by study authors Philip Shaw, et al.
Earlier researchers have also ignored the probable connection between the drugs and problems with brain size and growth. At a 1998 National Institutes of Health (NIH) Consensus Conference on ADHD, 14 MRI studies of people treated for ADHD were reviewed. The presenters reported on-average 10% brain atrophy (shrinkage) in ADHD subjects—however, pediatric neurologist Dr. Fred Baughman pointed out that the vast majority of the ADHD subjects had been treated long-term with stimulants—the only physical difference from the control group—suggesting that it was the drugs, not the so-called disorder, that was causing the brain atrophy. In the end, the NIH Panel concluded: “…there are no data to indicate that ADHD is due to a brain malfunction.”
In fact, researchers have repeatedly failed to prove any physical abnormality that can validate the existence of ADHD. In 2003, Jonathan Leo, Professor of Anatomy at the Western University of Health Sciences and Professor David Cohen of the School of Social Work at Florida International University, reviewed 33 brain-imaging studies of ADHD-diagnosed subjects. They confirmed that every study concerned medicated children, a major variable because stimulant drugs “cause very persistent changes in the brain.” They also reviewed a widely touted 2002 NIMH study that included unmedicated subjects and claimed that unmedicated ADHD children had significantly smaller brains. However, the comparison group was two years older and taller, so naturally the smaller children had smaller brains.
In 2000, a study published in The Lancet claimed ADHD was linked to an over-production of dopamine. This was passed off as “fact”, even though the study involved only six adult subjects diagnosed with ADHD—all of whom were most likely to have been on long-term drug treatment, particularly stimulants. Critical details as to precisely what drugs they had been on or for how long were not provided, but the authors stated that one month before the brain scanning commenced, the subjects were taken off any drug that may affect the dopamine system. Stimulant drugs administered for ADHD affect the dopamine system. Based on this alone, the scanning differences found between the ADHD subjects and the normal subjects were likely to have been caused by drug treatment.
Despite all the research done in an attempt to prove otherwise, there remain no physical tests that can validate the existence of ADHD. Even the American Psychiatric Association admits in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Edition IV, that there are “...no laboratory tests that have been established as diagnostic” for ADHD. Instead, the diagnosis is entirely subjective—based on a checklist of “symptoms” that sound a lot like normal childhood behavior: “Fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in chair,” “Difficulty engaging in activities quietly” and “Acts as if driven by a motor.” Even with this lack of scientific basis for the so-called disorder, vested interests such as CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder), which received more than $1 million in pharmaceutical funding in 2004-2005 alone, aggressively promote ADHD and the drugs used to “treat” it. Now, as many as 10% of children are a! lleged to have ADHD—many of whom are prescribed cocaine-like stimulants.
In addition to suppressed growth, the FDA warns that the drugs can cause psychosis, aggression, heart att
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Health Canada issued a warning two years ago about rare heart-related risks for all attention deficit hyperactivity disorder drugs telling those with risk factors to avoid them.
Ritalin is commonly prescribed to children diagnosed with hyperactivity disorders and Tuesday the American Heart Association says before children get the drug they should get a thorough heart work-up including an electro-cardiogram.
In past nine years, as many as 30 child deaths have been linked to Ritalin and 2.5 million American kids take it.
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Subject: ADHD Study is Misleading, Charges Watchdog Group
Stimulant Side Effects, Not "ADHD", May Be to Blame for Slow Brain Development
LOS ANGELES: A Nov 16 study in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences on delayed brain development in children diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is misleading, claims a psychiatric watchdog group. Researchers from the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH), examining a series of brain images of more than 400 children (half of them “ADHD”), concluded that some regions of the brain of children with ADHD matured several years later than normal. The Citizens Commission on Human Rights (CCHR) says the researchers underplayed the fact that 66% of the ADHD subjects studied had been on powerful stimulants (as reported in the study), warned by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) to cause suppression of growth—which could logically include brain development. With stimulant “treatment” the only physical variable, and ADHD never validated as a real disease, it is likely that the stimulant drugs, not ADHD, are to blame for ! the slow brain maturation reported by study authors Philip Shaw, et al.
Earlier researchers have also ignored the probable connection between the drugs and problems with brain size and growth. At a 1998 National Institutes of Health (NIH) Consensus Conference on ADHD, 14 MRI studies of people treated for ADHD were reviewed. The presenters reported on-average 10% brain atrophy (shrinkage) in ADHD subjects—however, pediatric neurologist Dr. Fred Baughman pointed out that the vast majority of the ADHD subjects had been treated long-term with stimulants—the only physical difference from the control group—suggesting that it was the drugs, not the so-called disorder, that was causing the brain atrophy. In the end, the NIH Panel concluded: “…there are no data to indicate that ADHD is due to a brain malfunction.”
In fact, researchers have repeatedly failed to prove any physical abnormality that can validate the existence of ADHD. In 2003, Jonathan Leo, Professor of Anatomy at the Western University of Health Sciences and Professor David Cohen of the School of Social Work at Florida International University, reviewed 33 brain-imaging studies of ADHD-diagnosed subjects. They confirmed that every study concerned medicated children, a major variable because stimulant drugs “cause very persistent changes in the brain.” They also reviewed a widely touted 2002 NIMH study that included unmedicated subjects and claimed that unmedicated ADHD children had significantly smaller brains. However, the comparison group was two years older and taller, so naturally the smaller children had smaller brains.
In 2000, a study published in The Lancet claimed ADHD was linked to an over-production of dopamine. This was passed off as “fact”, even though the study involved only six adult subjects diagnosed with ADHD—all of whom were most likely to have been on long-term drug treatment, particularly stimulants. Critical details as to precisely what drugs they had been on or for how long were not provided, but the authors stated that one month before the brain scanning commenced, the subjects were taken off any drug that may affect the dopamine system. Stimulant drugs administered for ADHD affect the dopamine system. Based on this alone, the scanning differences found between the ADHD subjects and the normal subjects were likely to have been caused by drug treatment.
Despite all the research done in an attempt to prove otherwise, there remain no physical tests that can validate the existence of ADHD. Even the American Psychiatric Association admits in its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Edition IV, that there are “...no laboratory tests that have been established as diagnostic” for ADHD. Instead, the diagnosis is entirely subjective—based on a checklist of “symptoms” that sound a lot like normal childhood behavior: “Fidgets with hands or feet or squirms in chair,” “Difficulty engaging in activities quietly” and “Acts as if driven by a motor.” Even with this lack of scientific basis for the so-called disorder, vested interests such as CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder), which received more than $1 million in pharmaceutical funding in 2004-2005 alone, aggressively promote ADHD and the drugs used to “treat” it. Now, as many as 10% of children are a! lleged to have ADHD—many of whom are prescribed cocaine-like stimulants.
In addition to suppressed growth, the FDA warns that the drugs can cause psychosis, aggression, heart att
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CA and Acting "Yes"!
Now in 2009, I realize so many reasons for neither! lol.
I reviewed this:
And realized how true even moreso ALL of those reasons for chicago no, CA YES ARE! All of my envisionments of success and happiness and solutions have totally emerged in ca! Moreso, my entire life has changed! What I do with my time has transformed. I'm convinced ALL of my writing -- the process of cognitively getting to know my brains' ins and outs -- and all my work and job career attempts of the past and even all my schooling all revolved around getting HERE, right here!! The travel and school made me see providied scope of what's out there (what's NOT out there) enabling me to respect acting corps even more and the writing created tremendous solid growth and certainty and "collecting of my experiences" a detailed eloquent and articulate inventory of my experiences. Everything can be challenging out here, but it's NEVER struggle. So many words like "problem, struggle, pain, annoying, etc." are completely nonexistent in my vocabulary out here! I only have words like "paradise, awesome, joy, heaven, nature, clean, hollywood, calabasas" now! Perfect, awesome!
But my days just seem so much more productive without having to "try" to be productive. In acting, we learned that a physical action on stage, among other things (like have it's test in the other person, be physically capable of being done, etc.) must "not be an errand". But out here, a simple "errand" feels like a great action! haha! (of course, true acting actions must not be "errands" in the typical sense of an activity that involves only oneself as a task). It's such an amazing feeling that whenever you go out and get some groceries or run some random little errand, you look forward to that mini-trip to being a journey because you want to get to know the place (LA, calabasas, hollywood, etc) better! You have no idea what it feels like moving from a place where I had ZERO interest in getting to know the environment (colorado and illionois) where everything is a task-burden to loving the mystery and excitement of getting to know and explore a place I love (california). It's made life really magical and alive and I feel more alert and focused than ever living here and taking acting classes!
Man, I DEFINITELY felt like I was part of something HUGE with BC 1 acting corps. someting big, fun, engaging, transformative, and awesome. Thanks again, you guys!
Reasons for "no" Chicago, "yes" CA v2.
1 Books – All of my Validate Your Life writing was done in CA. CA is the place for me, and I made some of the most meaningul life connections ever out there. I could not have done all of the awesome writing I've done without having a CA connection.
2 Energy – I've realized you MUST be incredibly firm and resolute about your time, otherwise, people cause you to drift back into things you don't like. I feel energized with LA energy; I feel depleted by chicago energy. I will never set foot in a chicago (hopefully, and most likely, any bar ever again).
3 Exercise – This one's easy. Biking 3-5 times/ week 20 miles at a time, then surfing for 2-3 hours.. Yeah, simple. I get exercise in CA. I do not get exercise in chicago and stay crumpled up, petrified in my little apartment bubble.
4 Career – The LA lifestyle has all the resources I need – film, ocean, mountains, entertainment, computers – that I want to connect with. Apple and Hollywood are in CA. CA is the place for me; chicago lacks all of those valuable and life career connections.
5 Environmental Connections --- Not unlike the lushious rural environment of Michigan, I actually have an interst in connecting with the ocean and landscaep of CA; the same is not true of chicago.
6 People – This is enormous. LA is full of GOOD relationships. Every problem you've ever had revolves around and stems from bad relationships. You put yourself around good relationships and good people and you experience success. In the past year in chicago, I've experienced probably more problems in 11 months than I've experience in 13-14 years of my life. Environment problems, technical, electrical problems, acceptance problems, social problems, psychologicaly problems, computer problems, girl problems -- all those problems stem from bad relationships in chicago. LA brings good relationship -- when I'm there, I don't have problems, I have fun experiences, healthy intercourse, out-door UV health and sunlight, nature interaction, computer situations that always function correctly, outdoor environments that are attractive and pleasurable, exciting social and accepting cultural space -- I get solutions in LA from those good relationship with good people. Does this mean chicago is all bad relationships and la all good relationships? No, I'm not that naive to think things are so polarized. However, their exist much more good relationships that I created in LA, than in chicago. I have the evidence to prove it -- tons of problems, overflowing problems, and tons of solutions in LA; it's empirally and ideally illustrated that LA creates more solutions with more good relationships. I can still find good relationships in chicago, but (for me, not necessarily for anyone else) in LA abundance, ease, and energy of good relationships and solutions goes unmatched and unrivaled by far. If I were to pick a place where I'm the least closed off, most open, most willing to email, connect with people via phone, and most especially in person, it's in LA. I like the people, the ideas, the very open culture out there. When I'm not around those like minds, I close myself off from the world. While I find connecting with the lifestyles of people in CA preferable to solitude, connecting with solitude feels more rewarding than connecting with people who I consider to have non-advanced destructive beliefs. In short, I vow to only live with two extremes in my life – total solitude, or connecting myself with people and energies I revere and actually like (chicago has neither of those: it does not have the solitude, nor the like minds).
7 8 Voice – I discover all kinds of intrapersonal awareness in CA that I cannot find elsewhere.
9 Living area – I lay crumpled up in a pathetic ball in Chicago, flustered by the neighbor's sounds and voices. It's not just unpleasant; chicago is remarkably unhealthy. In CA, I feel energized and can't help but be connected.
And realized how true even moreso ALL of those reasons for chicago no, CA YES ARE! All of my envisionments of success and happiness and solutions have totally emerged in ca! Moreso, my entire life has changed! What I do with my time has transformed. I'm convinced ALL of my writing -- the process of cognitively getting to know my brains' ins and outs -- and all my work and job career attempts of the past and even all my schooling all revolved around getting HERE, right here!! The travel and school made me see providied scope of what's out there (what's NOT out there) enabling me to respect acting corps even more and the writing created tremendous solid growth and certainty and "collecting of my experiences" a detailed eloquent and articulate inventory of my experiences. Everything can be challenging out here, but it's NEVER struggle. So many words like "problem, struggle, pain, annoying, etc." are completely nonexistent in my vocabulary out here! I only have words like "paradise, awesome, joy, heaven, nature, clean, hollywood, calabasas" now! Perfect, awesome!
But my days just seem so much more productive without having to "try" to be productive. In acting, we learned that a physical action on stage, among other things (like have it's test in the other person, be physically capable of being done, etc.) must "not be an errand". But out here, a simple "errand" feels like a great action! haha! (of course, true acting actions must not be "errands" in the typical sense of an activity that involves only oneself as a task). It's such an amazing feeling that whenever you go out and get some groceries or run some random little errand, you look forward to that mini-trip to being a journey because you want to get to know the place (LA, calabasas, hollywood, etc) better! You have no idea what it feels like moving from a place where I had ZERO interest in getting to know the environment (colorado and illionois) where everything is a task-burden to loving the mystery and excitement of getting to know and explore a place I love (california). It's made life really magical and alive and I feel more alert and focused than ever living here and taking acting classes!
Man, I DEFINITELY felt like I was part of something HUGE with BC 1 acting corps. someting big, fun, engaging, transformative, and awesome. Thanks again, you guys!
3.30.2008
A Riddle for the Wise
What am I?
People dream of me.The dream of me nonstop and want me. The can't stop thinking about how much good I'll do for their life, their dreams, their future.
Without me people may feel deprived, but even with a ton of me people may feel more empty than before.
Not the right amount, but the right utilization and respect of me can open tremendous doors of ease in one's life.
Having too much or too little of me or worse, the wrong relationship with me, can cause tempests of doom and gloom to emerge.
Everyone on the planet -- shrink, savior, saint, serial killer, serial entreprenear, surly or surefire -- has a relationship with me.
Who Am I?
Money!
3.28.2008
Discipline and Punish? Nay, Positive Feedback and Learn
This is some fairly old school psychology stuff, but worth remembering. Regarding Learning and Punishment. Radical behaviorist, B.F. Skinner, the father of operant conditioning, says, the only thing people learn from getting punished is how to not get punished the next time (i.e. we don’t learn from punishment. period!)
Skinner says that there are 5 main obstacles in learning:
1. People have a fear of failure
2. There is a lack of directions
3. There is also a lack of clarity in the direction
4. Positive reinforcement is not used enough
5. The task is not broken down into small enough steps
Skinner suggests that with all of the obstacles out of the way any age appropriate skill can be taught using his 5 principles:
1. Have small steps
2. Work from most simple to most complex tasks
3. Repeat the directions as many times as possible
4. Give immediate feedback
5. Give positive reinforcement
1. People have a fear of failure
2. There is a lack of directions
3. There is also a lack of clarity in the direction
4. Positive reinforcement is not used enough
5. The task is not broken down into small enough steps
Skinner suggests that with all of the obstacles out of the way any age appropriate skill can be taught using his 5 principles:
1. Have small steps
2. Work from most simple to most complex tasks
3. Repeat the directions as many times as possible
4. Give immediate feedback
5. Give positive reinforcement
Personally, I think we should just skip to the 5 principles for learning and life.
3.19.2008
Urban & British Phrases
Great Urban Dictionary Phrases I Like
Great Lines From Movies
Great British Phrases
Snog -- kiss (a more loving, saliva kiss) or 400 calories
smack -- a kiss like, "give us a smack, toots".
Shag -- fuck
Cheerio
petrol - gas
"said" blank -- That tv is funny. Said tv is definitely funny.
"Chips" --> "Fries"
"Biscuit" --> "Cookie"
"Lemonade" --> "Sprite" or "7-Up" (American lemonade has no carbonation)
"Plaits" --> "Braids"
"Braces" --> "Suspenders"
Doctor's Surgery -- Doctor's Office
blinkers -- turn signals
wheelie bins -- garbage cans (three kinds, black (smelly), green (recycling), brown (soil and shrubs)
hooter -- south african (honk horn)
gob -- mouth; gobby -- talky; like "she's a gobby cow" she's a non-stop annoying talker
telly, box, tube - tv
blokes and birds -- guys and girls
I was sitting around with my blokes and birds watching the telly. I was recuperating after visiting the doctor's surgery. Jenny had gotten her plaits caught in her braces and had to get them removed. We tried to turn on all the blinkers while driving to the doctor's surgery, but we hit some wheelie bins and kept hitting our hooter. Jenny was gobby as hell, we were low on petrol, and it was hectic. I was starving and just wanted chips, a lemonade, and some biscuits, but we got there on time and I gave Jenny a snog.
confound the man
balderdash
bollocks
blooming
botch
bob's your uncle -and that's it
bender -pub crawl
cheers -good bye/thanks
Cheerio -good bye
codswallop -baloney
cor
gutted - really upset
pip pip --outdated; goodbye
smashing -- terrific
twat -- an insult for someone who has upset you
take a mickey -- take a piss
tosser or wanker -- jerk
Confound the man! Balderdash I say. The bender botched my schedule and bob's your uncle. I had to take a mickey and didn't want to be a wanker and was really gutted when I couldn't find the leiu. Well cheerio, smashing good time.
London Cockney Rhyming Slang
After the doctor's surgery, Jenny had a scar on her boat race and I needed a dig in the grave to clean up. Adam and eve me, you do not want to go fast in your jam when your loaf is focused on an emergency; it's all sixes and sevens and difficult to keep butchering at the road! We all had a gay and friskey afterward, but I had spilled something on my whistle. My mince pies ached, but after a few pigs ears (but not too much to avoid getting cream crackered), Joe joked about his trouble and strife, and we all celebrated a good bubble before going up the apples and pears to bed. But, wait! I still had to use the dog and bone becauase I left that one pot and pan back at the battle cruiser! I called my good china, jumped in the jam, arrived at the battle cruiser, took a butcher around, spotted my good china plate, and drove back home. We had a good bubble about the whole evening!
Great Sales Lines
"We want this to be a good fit for you." (we don't want to sell you something that isn't congruent with where you're heading and where you want to go).
- PMS -- A powerful spell that women are put under about once every month, which gives them the strength of an ox, the stability of a Window's OS, and the scream of a banshee. Basically, man's worst nightmare."OMFG! SHE HAS PMS!!! RUN FOR YOUR LIVES!!!! *explosions and screams*"
- Box lock -- female version of a cock block
- Game or Lame
- Robocracy -- government run by robots.
- CRS -- can't remember shit.
- Reverse telecommuniting -- bringing a book or playing games at work.
- DILLIGAF -- "Does it look like I give a fuck?"
- California Car Pool
- 400 calories -- making out for 20 minutes!
Usage. If you CRS you could chose lame in going game or lame and end up back in a Robocracy full of people who typically reverse telecommute. DILLIGAF about someone's reading they want to do at work? No! They should do their job!.
Great Lines From Movies
- I have to go return some tapes. (American Psycho)
- Are you taking any prescription medication? (Rain man)
- "I can no longer sit back and allow Communist infiltration, Communist indoctrination, Communist subversion and the international Communist conspiracy to sap and impurify all of our precious bodily fluids." (Dr. Strangelove).
- "You think every morning I wake up, look in the mirror and say "Gee I'm glad I'm me and not some 19-year-old billionaire rockstar with the body of an athelete and a 24-hour erection!" No I don't! So just excuse the shit outof me! " (The Ref, Weiss).
Great British Phrases
Snog -- kiss (a more loving, saliva kiss) or 400 calories
smack -- a kiss like, "give us a smack, toots".
Shag -- fuck
Cheerio
petrol - gas
"said" blank -- That tv is funny. Said tv is definitely funny.
"Chips" --> "Fries"
"Biscuit" --> "Cookie"
"Lemonade" --> "Sprite" or "7-Up" (American lemonade has no carbonation)
"Plaits" --> "Braids"
"Braces" --> "Suspenders"
Doctor's Surgery -- Doctor's Office
blinkers -- turn signals
wheelie bins -- garbage cans (three kinds, black (smelly), green (recycling), brown (soil and shrubs)
hooter -- south african (honk horn)
gob -- mouth; gobby -- talky; like "she's a gobby cow" she's a non-stop annoying talker
telly, box, tube - tv
blokes and birds -- guys and girls
I was sitting around with my blokes and birds watching the telly. I was recuperating after visiting the doctor's surgery. Jenny had gotten her plaits caught in her braces and had to get them removed. We tried to turn on all the blinkers while driving to the doctor's surgery, but we hit some wheelie bins and kept hitting our hooter. Jenny was gobby as hell, we were low on petrol, and it was hectic. I was starving and just wanted chips, a lemonade, and some biscuits, but we got there on time and I gave Jenny a snog.
confound the man
balderdash
bollocks
blooming
botch
bob's your uncle -and that's it
bender -pub crawl
cheers -good bye/thanks
Cheerio -good bye
codswallop -baloney
cor
gutted - really upset
pip pip --outdated; goodbye
smashing -- terrific
twat -- an insult for someone who has upset you
take a mickey -- take a piss
tosser or wanker -- jerk
Confound the man! Balderdash I say. The bender botched my schedule and bob's your uncle. I had to take a mickey and didn't want to be a wanker and was really gutted when I couldn't find the leiu. Well cheerio, smashing good time.
London Cockney Rhyming Slang
- Loaf -- loaf of bread -- head
- jam -- jam jar -- car
- China -- china plate -- mate
- brass -- brass tacks -- facts
- Up the apples and pears -- up the stairs
- adam -- adam and eve -- believe
- sixes and sevens -- messed up, crazy
- butcher -- butcher's hook -- look
- dog -- dog and bone -- phone
- bubble -- bubble bath -- laugh
- dig -- dig in the grave -- shave
- battle -- battle cruiser -- boozer "we had a pint at the local battle cruiser"
- pigs ear -- beer
- cream crackered -- knackered -- hung over
- whistle and flute -- suit
- pot & pan -- man
- north -- north and south -- mouth
- gay -- gay and friskey -- whiskey
- mince pies -- eyes
- trouble -- trouble and strife -- wife
- boat race -- face
After the doctor's surgery, Jenny had a scar on her boat race and I needed a dig in the grave to clean up. Adam and eve me, you do not want to go fast in your jam when your loaf is focused on an emergency; it's all sixes and sevens and difficult to keep butchering at the road! We all had a gay and friskey afterward, but I had spilled something on my whistle. My mince pies ached, but after a few pigs ears (but not too much to avoid getting cream crackered), Joe joked about his trouble and strife, and we all celebrated a good bubble before going up the apples and pears to bed. But, wait! I still had to use the dog and bone becauase I left that one pot and pan back at the battle cruiser! I called my good china, jumped in the jam, arrived at the battle cruiser, took a butcher around, spotted my good china plate, and drove back home. We had a good bubble about the whole evening!
Great Sales Lines
"We want this to be a good fit for you." (we don't want to sell you something that isn't congruent with where you're heading and where you want to go).
3.14.2008
Arigato Sushi after Surfing and Apartment Lease Arrangements
10 Emotions -- 10 Action Signals!
Uncomfortable-- Mildly Embarassed, Distressed, Uneasy, Boredom, Impatience,
Fear-- Concern, Worry, Apprehension, Anxiety, Terrified
Hurt-- Sense of Loss
Anger -- Mildly Irritated, Livid, Resentful, Angry, Enraged
Frustration -- Held Back or Hindered in Pursuit of Something
Disappointment -- Sad, Defeated as result of something that didn’t work out well
Guilt -- Regret
Inadequacy -- Feel “Less than” or “Unworthy”
Overloaded -- Overwhelmed, Hopeless, Depressed, More than you can possibly deal with
Lonely -- Alone, Apart from, or Separate From something
Quick Recap: I went surfing for 2 hours. MASSIVE fun. Was an hour late to dinner with my parents at Arigato Sushi. When I arrived they were incensed. I agreed it was humiliating for anyone to wait that long. But it was the two of them, not ONE person, so it wasn’t too problematic. (besides the next day I was 40 minutes late (but called) and they had no problem with it). My mom ended up getting extremely enraged, upset, and hurt. I meanwhile tried to figure out what had caused this? One VERY hypothetical and bizarre theory is that my surfing put me in a GREAT fun and aligned state, which brought out the residual emotions that have been dormant between my parents for so long. This goes back to difficulty in sharing some things with some parents. I’m convinced they’re having serious communication problems between each other and use me as the glue for their relationship. Here are the details.
I feel disturbed about the Arigato thing. Because I think I wanted to handle it differently. I wanted mom to recognize her emotions, clarify where HER anger was coming from. She had a LOT of it. I’m 87% sure that most of it was ALL directed towards Tom, but she projected her feelings of ill-communication toward me. That was very strange how she felt what I often feel. My mom said to dad and I “You guys are ganging up on me!”. Have the dinner conversation, my mom looked like a bulldog -- so utterly enraged, but quiet. When she spoke, I dont’ really know what she was trying to do...sound cutting or derisive? No Idea, I think she was interested in blaming me for the emotions she was feelling. Then she burst into tears, but pushed it back down. And then left to find the car. Things that irked me were I said to mom during dinner, “you look hurt”. Which was true, she kind of nodded to me that that was true, and the same when I observed that “you look aggravated”. Then I asked something like “how did you feel during the conversation”? and my dad turned to mom and said the exact same thing “how did you feel during the conversation?” Is there an echo in here? He did that a bout 2-3 times. That irked me because: 1)It conveyed a lack of authenticity on tom’s part. If he’s just repeating questions he thinks were good, said by me, how genuine can his intentions be in truly finding out how mom feels. 2)I kind of wanted to address how mom was feeling because she looked SERIOUSLY upset and she looked open to that, but my father, Tom (I’ve experienced this) has a way of asking questions that cause you to rationalize emotions instead of feel them. That’s okay for productivity and my dad is a MASTER of go-go-go and always getting thigns done, but sometimes for your healthy and emotional safety, you just MUST actually FEEL the emotion, so you can hear the signal it’s telling you (and then take appropriate actions). Emotions are like indicators of what needs to change for yoru soul, your life, your sense of peace, happiness, and joy. When you deny yourself from experiencing and heeding an emotion’s signal, you deprive yourself of such an invaluable beacon and bearing of ‘what to do”! Then after mom, in a heat of upset and rage and hurt, left the table, dad kind of laughed and joked that she wouldn’t be able to find the car. I love my dad for being able to joke and make a laugh out of almost any situation, but I was also a bit shocked. Dad said something about how “he just says things and gets them off his chest, while mom allows them to build up”. I affirmed that James (my bro) does teh “just saying thigns” method, while I occasionally do the “build up” method, but am trying to be more authentic and congruent. I asked, shouldn’t we go after her to see if she’s okay? He sai,d “she’ll be fine” and I said “It’s hard to know what to do when someone is hurt and upset. Do they need to walk and cool off, do they need a hug? Do they need someone to talk with?” So I end up running out of the restaurant, and immediately run into a runner who’s like “Wanna race?” I go “Sure!” and he says “You look fast. Anyone who comes out of Arigato running has a leg up on the comepitition!” I ran around the block, but couldn’t find mom and went back to dinner. Dad and I talked about how it was more complex than it looked. I remarked, “Oh good, I think I was making it even MORE complex. I was like What is going on? What made mom so upset? Was it just me being late? Do mom and dad have marital problems?” and my dad laughed at that one. What does that mean?!! That they do? children, of all people, pick up on these things, especially adult-children like me. There are just SOOOOO many eggshells (like fields and fields of eggshells) when talking to both parents about something highly emotional or volatile (when one is upset) because I think they have so many things to communicate about that they’ve suppressed, that they frequently get angry about something and then misdirect that onto me. Again, my solution to all this is to just convey and FEEL massive gratitude toward them both because they deserve that and much much more!
the reason why I am making such a big deal of this Arigato scene is that I feel like it was
A rupture of the can of worms between my mom and my dad themselves and I could have been more encouraging and therapeutically catalyzing catharsis.
Afterwards, I felt it was “bad” to surf. The next day, I woke up, felt AWFUL, hungover, hadn’t showered, hadn’t run, felt terribly disgusting, and then spent 5 hours with my parents doing hte lease final thigns on the apartment before going for a run and during the run this woman flagged me over to her car (Lucette) and said these 4 heinous accusations of an old geezer, I think of as a “step grandfather” (Jim Bogges), so immediately after teh run, I jumped in the car (after telling my parents that I’d be late) and visited jim to see if he was addicted to methadone, sleeping with the house cleaning women, attacking Lucette’s clients, and that he and I were lovers. Of course, all those 4 things lucette said were absolutely spurious and not true, but it was a “quite a drama”!!! The point is that Friday was day of service, doing things for other people nonstop and that night my parents were extremely giving and relenting about being late. Thursday was me surfing for 2.5 hours HAVING A BLAST, doing things for myself. I feel incredibly frustrated that when I seem to do things for myself and feel absolutely INCREDIBLY, people around me tend to get upset and act infuriated (atleast my parents do). I think a good rule of thumb is parents are great, I have TREMENDOUS gratitude for their financial and intellectual and leadership generositiy and they’re brilliant, adorable, great people, bu they aren’t friends. I have to pick a peer group that actually is enjoyable when I treat myself with nourishment (like surfing! this #2 Concept is BIG. Other people being upset scares me because I’m so focused on making sure other people are having fun and feeling happy, so when I feel REALLY happy (like after surfing that one time), I felt obliated to try to sort out my parents problems in this gordian knot impossible quagmire where they’re opposed to admitting they want anything sorted out in the first place! What do you think about that? Why do you think when I feel FANTASTIC (I had done the hollywood scene yesterday, I had surfed all of thursday, I was on top of the WORLD of FUN!) people sometimes (atleast parents do) get enraged. Do you think me being so full of life and happy causes them to identify with their true emotions? More importantly, how can I continue feeling HAPPY and FREE and GREAT about myself when other people seem to lash out at me? How can I NEVER feel guilty about feeling happy? Do you think my parents could intentionally try to subdue and smash down my happiness by creating confusing drama when they recognize me being happy? Something is VERY Fishy with that whole genuine happiness thing. I don’t know what it is exactly, but I trust that I’ll evolve to a state where i experience consistent truly galvanizing and guilt-free happiness on a regular basis!
Uncomfortable-- Mildly Embarassed, Distressed, Uneasy, Boredom, Impatience,
Fear-- Concern, Worry, Apprehension, Anxiety, Terrified
Hurt-- Sense of Loss
Anger -- Mildly Irritated, Livid, Resentful, Angry, Enraged
Frustration -- Held Back or Hindered in Pursuit of Something
Disappointment -- Sad, Defeated as result of something that didn’t work out well
Guilt -- Regret
Inadequacy -- Feel “Less than” or “Unworthy”
Overloaded -- Overwhelmed, Hopeless, Depressed, More than you can possibly deal with
Lonely -- Alone, Apart from, or Separate From something
Quick Recap: I went surfing for 2 hours. MASSIVE fun. Was an hour late to dinner with my parents at Arigato Sushi. When I arrived they were incensed. I agreed it was humiliating for anyone to wait that long. But it was the two of them, not ONE person, so it wasn’t too problematic. (besides the next day I was 40 minutes late (but called) and they had no problem with it). My mom ended up getting extremely enraged, upset, and hurt. I meanwhile tried to figure out what had caused this? One VERY hypothetical and bizarre theory is that my surfing put me in a GREAT fun and aligned state, which brought out the residual emotions that have been dormant between my parents for so long. This goes back to difficulty in sharing some things with some parents. I’m convinced they’re having serious communication problems between each other and use me as the glue for their relationship. Here are the details.
I feel disturbed about the Arigato thing. Because I think I wanted to handle it differently. I wanted mom to recognize her emotions, clarify where HER anger was coming from. She had a LOT of it. I’m 87% sure that most of it was ALL directed towards Tom, but she projected her feelings of ill-communication toward me. That was very strange how she felt what I often feel. My mom said to dad and I “You guys are ganging up on me!”. Have the dinner conversation, my mom looked like a bulldog -- so utterly enraged, but quiet. When she spoke, I dont’ really know what she was trying to do...sound cutting or derisive? No Idea, I think she was interested in blaming me for the emotions she was feelling. Then she burst into tears, but pushed it back down. And then left to find the car. Things that irked me were I said to mom during dinner, “you look hurt”. Which was true, she kind of nodded to me that that was true, and the same when I observed that “you look aggravated”. Then I asked something like “how did you feel during the conversation”? and my dad turned to mom and said the exact same thing “how did you feel during the conversation?” Is there an echo in here? He did that a bout 2-3 times. That irked me because: 1)It conveyed a lack of authenticity on tom’s part. If he’s just repeating questions he thinks were good, said by me, how genuine can his intentions be in truly finding out how mom feels. 2)I kind of wanted to address how mom was feeling because she looked SERIOUSLY upset and she looked open to that, but my father, Tom (I’ve experienced this) has a way of asking questions that cause you to rationalize emotions instead of feel them. That’s okay for productivity and my dad is a MASTER of go-go-go and always getting thigns done, but sometimes for your healthy and emotional safety, you just MUST actually FEEL the emotion, so you can hear the signal it’s telling you (and then take appropriate actions). Emotions are like indicators of what needs to change for yoru soul, your life, your sense of peace, happiness, and joy. When you deny yourself from experiencing and heeding an emotion’s signal, you deprive yourself of such an invaluable beacon and bearing of ‘what to do”! Then after mom, in a heat of upset and rage and hurt, left the table, dad kind of laughed and joked that she wouldn’t be able to find the car. I love my dad for being able to joke and make a laugh out of almost any situation, but I was also a bit shocked. Dad said something about how “he just says things and gets them off his chest, while mom allows them to build up”. I affirmed that James (my bro) does teh “just saying thigns” method, while I occasionally do the “build up” method, but am trying to be more authentic and congruent. I asked, shouldn’t we go after her to see if she’s okay? He sai,d “she’ll be fine” and I said “It’s hard to know what to do when someone is hurt and upset. Do they need to walk and cool off, do they need a hug? Do they need someone to talk with?” So I end up running out of the restaurant, and immediately run into a runner who’s like “Wanna race?” I go “Sure!” and he says “You look fast. Anyone who comes out of Arigato running has a leg up on the comepitition!” I ran around the block, but couldn’t find mom and went back to dinner. Dad and I talked about how it was more complex than it looked. I remarked, “Oh good, I think I was making it even MORE complex. I was like What is going on? What made mom so upset? Was it just me being late? Do mom and dad have marital problems?” and my dad laughed at that one. What does that mean?!! That they do? children, of all people, pick up on these things, especially adult-children like me. There are just SOOOOO many eggshells (like fields and fields of eggshells) when talking to both parents about something highly emotional or volatile (when one is upset) because I think they have so many things to communicate about that they’ve suppressed, that they frequently get angry about something and then misdirect that onto me. Again, my solution to all this is to just convey and FEEL massive gratitude toward them both because they deserve that and much much more!
the reason why I am making such a big deal of this Arigato scene is that I feel like it was
A rupture of the can of worms between my mom and my dad themselves and I could have been more encouraging and therapeutically catalyzing catharsis.
Afterwards, I felt it was “bad” to surf. The next day, I woke up, felt AWFUL, hungover, hadn’t showered, hadn’t run, felt terribly disgusting, and then spent 5 hours with my parents doing hte lease final thigns on the apartment before going for a run and during the run this woman flagged me over to her car (Lucette) and said these 4 heinous accusations of an old geezer, I think of as a “step grandfather” (Jim Bogges), so immediately after teh run, I jumped in the car (after telling my parents that I’d be late) and visited jim to see if he was addicted to methadone, sleeping with the house cleaning women, attacking Lucette’s clients, and that he and I were lovers. Of course, all those 4 things lucette said were absolutely spurious and not true, but it was a “quite a drama”!!! The point is that Friday was day of service, doing things for other people nonstop and that night my parents were extremely giving and relenting about being late. Thursday was me surfing for 2.5 hours HAVING A BLAST, doing things for myself. I feel incredibly frustrated that when I seem to do things for myself and feel absolutely INCREDIBLY, people around me tend to get upset and act infuriated (atleast my parents do). I think a good rule of thumb is parents are great, I have TREMENDOUS gratitude for their financial and intellectual and leadership generositiy and they’re brilliant, adorable, great people, bu they aren’t friends. I have to pick a peer group that actually is enjoyable when I treat myself with nourishment (like surfing! this #2 Concept is BIG. Other people being upset scares me because I’m so focused on making sure other people are having fun and feeling happy, so when I feel REALLY happy (like after surfing that one time), I felt obliated to try to sort out my parents problems in this gordian knot impossible quagmire where they’re opposed to admitting they want anything sorted out in the first place! What do you think about that? Why do you think when I feel FANTASTIC (I had done the hollywood scene yesterday, I had surfed all of thursday, I was on top of the WORLD of FUN!) people sometimes (atleast parents do) get enraged. Do you think me being so full of life and happy causes them to identify with their true emotions? More importantly, how can I continue feeling HAPPY and FREE and GREAT about myself when other people seem to lash out at me? How can I NEVER feel guilty about feeling happy? Do you think my parents could intentionally try to subdue and smash down my happiness by creating confusing drama when they recognize me being happy? Something is VERY Fishy with that whole genuine happiness thing. I don’t know what it is exactly, but I trust that I’ll evolve to a state where i experience consistent truly galvanizing and guilt-free happiness on a regular basis!
3.05.2008
Adulthood? Smells more like Youth-hood
Mencius – “The great man is he whom does not lose his child’s heart.”
What is the criteria for Adulthood? At a closer glance, it ends up looking more like Criteria for Perpetual Youth!
So let's lay the groundwork. WHAT DOES make you an adult??!!! We may consider ourselves as much of an adult as we consider ourselves a teen or even a toddler. I think the same is true for the rest of the world and all the people in it -- we're as much adults as we are kids and teens.
WHAT DOES make us an adult? Maybe it has to do with degrees we've earned, vocabulary used, emotional experiences, writings published, hardships endured, travel experienced, finances managed, and technological comprehension. Let's see...
On being an adult...
Degrees, only adults can get a college degree, right? Yeah We've graduated college and gotten a degree, but some highly-accelerated students have completed college by the age of 12!
Okay...words. After all, Ga-ga-goo-ga is very different from the alternative articulation of an "adult vocabulary". Yeah we use an expanded and very advanced, large vocabulary, but, again, young teenagers can have large vocabularies.
Does it have to dow with emotional relationships? Intimacy? Maybe it's sex that makes you an adult? Yes, we've done some "adult emotional " things like had sex before and felt love before, but there are some 16 year-olds who (out of poor life choices) who are actually parents, so sex doesn't make you an adult, and we've had "first loves" in elementary school, so that's not a definitive criteria either!
Maybe it has to do with all those "adult" papers we've written. After all, a kid couldn't write the stuff we've written! Yes, we've written a lot. I've written 5 e-published books, but there are a lot of very young authors out there. The book thing gives a little more clout to being an adult, but there are again, young teens who have written and published books.
Hardships. It's gotta be hardships. Only adults can fathom true hardships. Many people think of hardships, and life experiences, as essentials for adulthood, and we've done those, too. I've had police called on me about 7 times. I've lived without a bed for years, sleeping in tents in the jungle. I've dealt with conflict and authority on boats, in classrooms, and in bureaucracies before. But, hey, a fervent and highly stalwart and impassioned toddler could have those experiences, so life experiences and hardships don't make you and adult, either....
Hhhhmmm...finances? Yes, we all have bank accounts. We have a bank account and pay rent, loans, and expenses; we've filed tax reports and have done "adult financial things", but it's just a highly-advanced form of a "budgeting milk money" where, instead of a piggy bank, we have an electronic checking "piggy bank" so financial literacy and money management doesn't make you an adult...Earning money is just an expansion on the lemonade stand you set up for $0.50 a glass when you were 9....
I've got it. It's technology! That's ONLY adult stuff! We are all very savvy with technology. I've learned a lot about technology, math, and computer science, and have made dozens of websites, but there are some computer prodigies out there who have done WAY more than that and have a MUCH greater understanding of technological and mathematical science than me, so technological and science-based proficiency doesn't make you an adult either...
Travel! Yes! That's it! Babies who can't even crawl don't travel! We've had our fair share if itinerancy. I've done a lot of travel to dozens and dozens of countries around the world, some of you have likely traveled much more, but some kid who has a REALLY itinerant family has done as much travel or more. After seeing and learning about the "lost boys" from Sudan, you can eliminate "traveling" as a prerequisite for adulthood because they had to travel thousands of miles just for survival....
Regardless of degrees, vocabulary, emotional experiences, writings, hardships, travel, finances, and technological comprehension, I find it comforting to know that we -- at 8 or 18 or 88 or 108 -- are ALL alive and still very much kids and teens.
Bottom-line: What do YOU think makes someone an adult or what are the qualities that perpetuate youth?
Einstein – “The purpose of education is to channel the childlike sense of exploration and the lack of fear of failure to an area of academia.”
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